Oh, the irony of the title of this post. I have literally had this post written since the middle of January, but I UNINTENTIONALLY took a very long but much needed blogging break. SO what happened? Well, nothing specifically, but life happened. Soaking in every spare second with Asher, busting it at the gym, and straight working my ass off. LAWD, my real job has been C-R-A-Z-Y busy. Real job? As some of you know, I have a career in the medical device industry managing a rockstar group of sales consultants all across the Southeast. I cover 5 states and now 11 sales consultants. It is extremely demanding but equally rewarding. And now with Asher-man, my downtime is spent cuddling, playing, being silly, and falling in love with him over and over again. As hectic as life has been, I wouldn’t change it for the world.
I can’t wait to update you guys on Asher. He is almost 6 MONTHS OLD. Yall. I can’t even. It’s so hard to imagine that 6 months ago I was sweating to death in 105 degree weather wondering when my little was going to show up and now I am researching which food I want him to try first. We had gone out to dinner for our 5 year anniversary, and I remember thinking how good I felt. Fast forward 7 days, and I knew it was time. I was HUGE and nesting like crazy. That morning, a weird sense of calm overcame me, and 6 hours later the most perfect human was born (full birth story HERE)! What a JOY he is! He is so laid back (opposite of me, but I am starting to see more and more of me in him…competitive, hates missing out, loves cuddling), hilarious, happy, and just all around amazing…he is the best dude ever. How did I get so lucky to be his mom?
It’s funny…once you become a mom, a lot of things change. I have a deeper desire to provide for my family…a deeper desire to be healthier…a deeper desire to be the best I can be for Asher. I want to do everything I can with INTENTION, instead of my normal “winging it” routine.
So, now to the original post…
Intentional: done on purpose; deliberate; pre-planned.
Each year, as the holidays inch closer and closer, we start to reflect. Some of us get excited, some get sentimental, some get sad, and some get motivated. Regardless, the holidays bring all the feels.
For me, Christmas meant more to me than it ever has in the past. Having Asher has changed me. He has given me more motivation than I thought possible. He has motivated me to be a better mom, to be a better wife, to be a better friend, to be a better business women, to be in better health…you name it…he has made me want to be a better person. However, all of this “better” business seriously started to overwhelm me. I feel like I have been trying to be the best wife, mom, business women, friend, blogger, manager, employee, etc…without giving 100% to anything. This juggling had me out of sorts and sacrificing quality in different areas of my life. So, what did I do? I rested, reflected, and spent time with Ryan and Asher. From December 30th-January 3rd, we cuddled, we relaxed, we slept in, we laughed, we ate (a lot….wowzers), and we spent time as a family. I think this is the first time in over a year where i finally stopped to enjoy the moment and rest. And it was SO needed.
As the new year approached, I started thinking about goals and resolutions and things I wanted to do differently. Feeling overwhelmed again, I took a step back. What is the ONE THING I want to do differently this year? It was very clear…BE INTENTIONAL. Instead of making a million resolutions that I may or may not keep, I want to be more intentional in my life…with Ryan, with Asher, with work, with diet + exercise, with our finances, with charity, with life. Those two words are so powerful and can have quite an impact. Now, for someone who typically “wings it,” this will certainly be a challenge. But a challenge that I NEED to take head on. And a challenge that will help me grow in all aspects of my life.
LOVE + FAMILY
As Ryan and I finalize our goals for our family and each of us individually. this will be my ongoing theme and vision. This will be my “WHY.” Unlike a resolution, I will continue to modify these goals as I grow throughout the year. Will we fail? Absolutely. Like my friend Meghan says, I make 50 mistakes before I walk out the door each morning. Will be succeed? I have NO DOUBT in my mind. Will we take a step back to readjust? OF COURSE. But the beauty of making these goals is that it’s ok if my strategy changes. It’s ok if I get off course. But in the end, I will do it with intention and I will do it with conviction.
Life is tough. We should embrace the good, learn from the bad, and strive to understand our purpose. Give each other a break, say your sorry, and create a daily habit of making someone smile. Drop the entitlement and victim mentality and DO MORE to get more. Earn the respect of others and treat them as you would like to be treated.
Love more, pray more, and BE more. Here’s to a healthy and happy 2016 (2 months into the year)…now let’s go kick some ass!